Sexplain It: My Wife Refuses to Have Sex More Than 4 Times a Week
To help recommend some ways you can feel appreciated, desired, and loved without sex, I showed your question to therapist and author Dr. Lauren Cook, PsyD. She says you should take Dr. Gary Chapman's Love Languages test. “Whether that's spending quality time, offering words of affirmation, or helping around the house, you’ll learn what your partner needs to do to help you feel loved,” she says.
https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a34210923/sexplain-it-wife-refuses-to-have-more-sex/